I’m 20F and honestly I’m struggling. Everyone tells me to just enjoy being single, focus on myself, and that the right person will come along eventually. I get what they mean, but I genuinely want a relationship.
I’ve hooked up with a few people and really liked some of them, but they either ignored me, didn’t want anything serious, or things just fizzled out. What’s annoying is that I can lose interest in some people really fast, but the ones I actually like seem to be the ones that don’t want me back.
I feel like every guy I meet only checks some of the boxes. If the attraction and sexual chemistry are there, they usually aren’t relationship-minded. If they’re nice and want something serious, there’s often no chemistry or they don’t put in much effort. I want someone who treats me right, takes me out, has goals, and that I’m actually attracted to.
People also tell me that I can take care of my own needs and don’t need a relationship, but for me it’s not really the same. I miss the connection, affection, and intimacy with another person.
I’ve only had one actual relationship and it lasted about 2 months. Sometimes I worry I’m too picky, or that I’ll never find someone who checks enough boxes for me to genuinely be happy.
Has anyone else felt this way in their early 20s? Did things eventually work out, or did you have to change your mindset?
